Tool: The Resentment Inventory

This worksheet walks you through the people you spend regular time with and asks you to sort them based on one honest measure: how you actually feel after being around them. Not how the relationship is supposed to make you feel. Not how close you're supposed to be based on history, title, or obligation. Just the real, observed effect. Do you leave that interaction feeling more like yourself, or less like yourself? The result is a two-sided list — energizing relationships on one side, depleting ones on the other — that turns a vague, uneasy feeling into something concrete you can actually work with.

You’re not imagining it.

That short fuse, that heaviness you carry into rooms for no clear reason, that flatness where you used to feel present — it’s real, and it’s not random.

Somewhere underneath it is a list of things you’re doing purely out of obligation, and every one of them is quietly adding weight you haven’t named yet.

Unnamed resentment doesn’t stay quiet.

It leaks into the people who didn’t deserve it, into tasks you suddenly avoid, into a version of “fine” that nobody around you actually believes.

Left vague, it can attach itself to almost anything — which is exactly why it feels so much bigger than it should.

The Resentment Inventory gives you a way to stop guessing.

You’ll take that diffuse, exhausting sense of “off” and turn it into a specific, honest list — the exact obligations behind the bitterness, in your own words.

Once it’s named, it stops being a fog you react to and becomes something real you can finally work with.

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Course Includes

  • 3 Lessons